Faith's Why & How - Relationship Advice

There are many types of relationships from a cordial informal hello to long lasting affair of the heart, all of which are significant in your path to finding your purpose.  You may be driving alone and see a stranger in need of assistance and stop in your path to help, the memory of this short lived relationship could, for both of you, be life altering. The act of compassion and caring for a person who is doubting humanity and lost in self pity may reignite the flame of life in just seconds of your time.  While the memory of helping and setting the precedent that kindness still exists for others to witness and continue with as their own methodology towards life, will this more than strengthen your love for yourself. 

If you build relationships treating others the way you would like to be treated, you fill find the greatest companions and friends.  People are not perfect by any means, you will meet people who's negativity is so prominent that your good intentions will not be able to penetrate deep enough to be recognized.  These people are not ready to be in a relationship with you, don't feel bad, you cannot allow that negativity to impede your progress.  Wish them well and keep your distance until they are ready to share the light of the positivity that you walk in.  No matter the bond; whether, time or blood you cannot allow yourself to experience for more than a moment the sorrow that they dwell in.  You are on a path to greatness and greatness takes along no prisoners.  

Along your journey relationships will cause you pain. If you are empathetic, lower your expectations of others to minimize disappointment. If you are lonely take priority on your relationship with yourself before involving yourself with others. We are all guilty of setting expectations of others and in turn settings ourselves up for disappointment. Until you understand that it is you allowing yourself to be upset and hurt by expecting others to act as you wish, you won't find peace. You will be tormented with the why, don't expect why to comfort you. Why is irrelevant. What's important is how! How is very important, how did you come to feel this way, how did you get in this position, and how will you learn from it. How is important because it's how this won't happen again. Its how you will see people for what they are before you let them get close. How blocks the bigger losers who are yet to come. Why is pain and how is your power to change. 

There may be people in your life right now who are hurting you. You may call them friends, family or coworkers. You may have convinced yourself you need them, they love you and they are there to support you. But are they? Too often we share our weaknesses with our fr-enemies blinded by emotion. A relationship evaluation is something I do often and its something like this: 

How is this relationship beneficial?

How is this relationship toxic?

How do I feel about this person? 

How does this person feel about me?

What is the future of this relationship?

Should I continue this relationship?

If you answer these questions you should have a clear understanding of if you should continue or end this relationship. Unfortunately there will be a hard choice in some cases and your life may change, luckily it's for the better. As its said there are three types of relationships, people who come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and its up to you to choose the right crew. It's a relation-ship and you should always expect rough waters.