There are many types of relationships from
a cordial informal hello to long lasting affair of the heart, all of which are
significant in your path to finding your purpose. You may be driving
alone and see a stranger in need of assistance and stop in your path to help,
the memory of this short lived relationship could, for both of you, be life
altering. The act of compassion and caring for a person who is doubting
humanity and lost in self pity may reignite the flame of life in just seconds
of your time. While the memory of helping and setting the precedent that
kindness still exists for others to witness and continue with as their own
methodology towards life, will this more than strengthen your love for
yourself.
If you build relationships treating others the way you would like to
be treated, you fill find the greatest companions and friends. People are
not perfect by any means, you will meet people who's negativity is so prominent
that your good intentions will not be able to penetrate deep enough to be recognized.
These people are not ready to be in a relationship with you, don't feel bad,
you cannot allow that negativity to impede your progress. Wish them well
and keep your distance until they are ready to share the light of the
positivity that you walk in. No matter the bond; whether, time or
blood you cannot allow yourself to experience for more than a moment the sorrow
that they dwell in. You are on a path to greatness and greatness takes
along no prisoners.
Along your journey relationships will cause you pain.
If you are empathetic, lower your expectations of others to minimize
disappointment. If you are lonely take priority on your relationship with
yourself before involving yourself with others. We are all guilty of setting
expectations of others and in turn settings ourselves up for disappointment.
Until you understand that it is you allowing yourself to be upset and hurt by
expecting others to act as you wish, you won't find peace. You will be
tormented with the why, don't expect why to comfort you. Why is irrelevant.
What's important is how! How is very important, how did you come to feel this
way, how did you get in this position, and how will you learn from it. How is
important because it's how this won't happen again. Its how you will see people
for what they are before you let them get close. How blocks the bigger losers
who are yet to come. Why is pain and how is your power to change.
There may be
people in your life right now who are hurting you. You may call them friends,
family or coworkers. You may have convinced yourself you need them, they love
you and they are there to support you. But are they? Too often we share our
weaknesses with our fr-enemies blinded by emotion. A relationship evaluation is
something I do often and its something like this:
How is this relationship
beneficial?
How is this relationship toxic?
How do I feel about this person?
How does this person feel about me?
What is the future of this relationship?
Should I continue this relationship?
If you answer these questions you should
have a clear understanding of if you should continue or end this relationship.
Unfortunately there will be a hard choice in some cases and your life may
change, luckily it's for the better. As its said there are three types of
relationships, people who come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime and its up to you to choose the right crew. It's a relation-ship and
you should always expect rough waters.